Why a Breakdown?
Dr. Gabor Mate tells the story about how our true self loves us so much it will keep bringing us the experiences of pain to help us stop long enough to realize that we are loved as we are and simply have not been able to see the Love that is in each of us.
If we don’t get it, the experiences get harder and more difficult, until finally we have a breakdown that stops us in our tracks and forces us to stop where we are and find love within ourselves and see the world and our partners in a whole different way.
He talks about many people that have come to him, that have told him they were grateful for the Cancer, diseases and breakdowns that awakened them to the real truth about love!
So rather than seeing a breakdown as a ugly thing that happened, I have embraced it and in the pain and suffering that it brought, I had to look deeper into myself and find the love that comes from God and not from another person.
It requires a level of maturity and commitment to myself that I had not been able to produce previously, True I have had breakdowns before and went through long dark nights of the soul.
The difference now is the change from finding loving outside of myself, to looking within myself, and now being able to be quiet enough to hear the still small voice of GOD!
Dr. Mate tells the story of Joan of Arc, and how she heard voices that led her to do the amazing things she did. One day the King is talking to her and he asked “Why are you the one that hears the voices? I am the King, I should be the one hearing these voices.”
Her reply was this – “The voices are speaking to you too, you just don’t hear them.” and then she added “ You have not sat in the field in the evenings listening for them, when the bell rings you cross yourself and are done with it, but if you prayed from your heart and listened to the thrilling of the bells after they have stopped ringing, you would hear the voices as well as I do.
As I sit quietly now, listening to the echoes of Love that continue to ring in my soul after the breakdown and loss of my partner, God finally has been able to reach through and has given me the answers I have sought for the last year.
It is work that every man needs to do if you are choosing to be in a healthy relationship – don’t wait for the breakdown to do the work. Get busy, give up the immature insistence to hold onto your pain and childish emotions. Start today, and be the man she wants and needs, the return on your investment will be well worth it!
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